I feel a bit like a Susie Homemaker right now. I’m seated at our (new!) dining room table in my apron. I’ve been in the kitchen all evening. Though I worked a full day (and in a perfect world that would entitle me to an evening of lying on the couch and watching the Daily Show), instead, I’m taking a break while my pomegranate chocolate tart bakes. I’m preparing Thanksgiving dinner elements this evening so I can take it relatively easy tomorrow and make some time to go for a long walk with Adelaide and enjoy a day off work. A. DAY. OFF.WORK.
I’m saving vacation days. I am saving them so that I can take it easy next year and enjoy some time with the Frankster (oh, and that minor vacation we have planned to Iceland and London!). I began working last April and I have taken no time off since that then. Now granted, I have a flexible schedule and I work from home reasonably often. But, those are still working days. Tomorrow I’ve pledged to myself to DO NOTHING related to work. This would be a simpler task if lists and tasks would stop flitting through my mind reminding me that in a short time I need to be prepared to hand over all my projects to the people who’ll be covering for me during my maternity leave – the prospect of which makes me anxious. But, enough about work. I have 4 days off and I will be enjoying them thoroughly.
Today was a special day. I got a new engagement ring! I wish I could say that it was entirely my choice – it wasn’t. Unfortunately, the beautiful family ring that Rick gave me for our engagement lost not one, but two baguette diamonds in the last several months. Were it not so old, this wouldn’t be that big of a deal. But (and here is where I got an education on diamonds) baguette stones are incredibly challenging to work with! These days they come in standard sizes, but with an old ring you need to have them custom cut, which can only happen in a few places in New York. We did all this. But, it was to no avail. We even considered sending the ring to the jeweler in Australia who made our wedding bands, but in the end we determined the ring would become an ongoing challenge and elected to buy a new setting instead. Though it was hard for me to part with the incredibly unique art deco design of my original ring, I have to say I’m THRILLED at my new one. I think I must have inherited my mom’s penchant for jewels and it just took awhile to hit me – rings are fun!
As you can see, the topics of my posts are becoming increasingly insular. Here I am talking about baking tarts, wearing aprons, and buying rings. Just wait until I share all that I’ve learned about breastfeeding, childcare, and our pre-admission to our birthing center. My life has taken a serious turn for the settled. As we come closer and closer to the baby’s guess date, and as my pelvis becomes increasingly sore with baby bearing down on it, I sometimes reflect on this massive life shift. In January of this year, Rick and I were gallivanting around Colombia. Today, we are homeowners, pet owners, and pregnant. I mean, seriously, WTF?
Sometimes the thought of being a mom terrifies me. I look at my backcountry ski gear and wonder if I’ll ever use it again. I think of the last time I went rafting and wonder how long it will be until I go again. I glance into our nursery and shake my head wondering when my life started to involve large towel hoods with monster faces on them. I look at my maternity wardrobe and wonder if I’m doomed to a life of frumpiness. I look at my career and truly wonder if it will still carry the weight it does in my life now. Will I make time for another masters? Will I write that piece for publication? Will I become one of those moms doing 800 different things at once – none of which are for my own benefit? I wonder if I’m too selfish for motherhood. I wonder if I can be happy in a settled life.
Now, in fairness, my idea of a settled life basically means I now own furniture and am responsible for the well-being of a dog. My standard isn’t THAT high. But, soon it will bump up a notch. And when I think of having a little man in my life, I oscillate between warm fuzzy feelings and terror.
These are the thoughts of Susie Homemaker tonight. I’m off to go read a book about how to soothe crying babies, that is, after I put the finishing touches on my tart. My blog (and life) have become sedate. Wish me luck at ever being cool again. 🙂